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long distance relationships, it surely is, can be the most difficult kind of relationship. it's straining to not have the capability of being in your significant other's presence as much as you would like to. especially if there are different agendas that don't match up with eachother's. although, distance can be hard to maintain. i don't think it is the complete blame for the stability of one's relationship. look in the mirror, that's your real problem. sorry, am i too harsh? yeah...
i'm tired of people using distance as an excuse for the downfall of their relationship. like really? are you that blind to not see the other reasons why? you don't need to spend every damn day with someone in order to have a healthy relationship. it just depends on how much you understand eachother. think about it, if you find yourself just arguing constantly over miscellaneous shit. obviously, the problem isn't distance at all. it's the lack of being able to smoothly communicate with one another.
foreals, if you're bitchin' about how often they don't come over to visit you, that's plain selfish. you think they DON'T want to see you? of course they do. recognize their circumstances before you start a fit over something that isn't even in their control. seriously, if you're the one complaining about how often they don't come over to see you... why don't you get off your ass & go visit them for a change then?
personally, i don't even get to see my boyfriend all the time. but does that bother me? naaw, it doesn't. i love him enough to understand that he has a goal to accomplish & i respect that. we're fortunate enough to spend almost every weekend together. some people don't even get to see one another for months or even years. so when i hear people complain about distance, & they're as lucky as i am to see someone every week. that's absolutely nothing compared to what others have to go through.
sometimes the distance may even feel nonexistent once you get to talk to them on the daily. its never about the quantity of time spent with them, but the quality. absence can be a positive cos it makes all the times that you do actually get to spend together more valuable. really, if you truly loved them, the distance should be nothing you guys can't overcome & everything would be worth it. why should a couple of miles ruin the big picture that you guys put so much effort in constructing?
you changed the end. but yeah long distance relationships are tricky. people change over the course of time. not that many people can handle the long distance, but you're right about how ridiculous it is to trip over a couple of miles.
ReplyDeleteyeah, in your situation it was kinda similar though, cos you didn't have a car yet you had this high expectation of visiting. i understand cos there was a fair share & you couldn't give back like you wanted. but, its not like you didn't want to. it's cos you couldn't. so thats where the circumstances came in.
ReplyDeleteyeah, i guess. but idk i still feel bad like i should have been trying harder or some shit
ReplyDeleteno, it's not your fault. you visited when you had the opportunity. i'm sorry you feel that way though. ):
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