Monday, August 2, 2010

was it worth it?

current mood: realistic.
current song: mariah carey - h.a.t.e.u.

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according to greek mythology, humans were originally created with four legs, four arms and a head with two faces. fearing their power, zeus split them apart, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other half.
maybe, the greek mythologists' theory was true. believe it or not, everyone has the desire to search for "the one," someone who is capable of making a person feel complete. depending on what type of person you are, we all have different approaches on finding love. some people just patiently wait for it to come their way. while others put themselves out there determined to find it, even if its the wrong way.
from personal experience, i've witnessed individuals who became overly obsessed with the idea of finding love that they create a mindset that anyone & everyone that comes their way has the high potential of reaching happily ever after. however, by doing so, it only makes one hurt themselves even more when things don't go their way. & when that happens, they believe that it's just another hill that can be easily surpassed cos they are head over heels for that person. so over time, they become clingy & delusional, relying on the words, "forever & always," that will get the relationship through anything. even blinding the fact of how broken the relationship is, they continue to hold on.
it really repulses me, how people are like this. forever, is non-existent. nothing lasts forever. not love, not friendships, not life. people constantly come & go in our lives, we have to accept that. everyone is in control of their own actions. if someone wants to stay, they'll stay. don't force them to stay when they don't want to. cos not only you're hurting yourself, you're hurting the other person for not giving them the option to leave. everything will just be one sided & the relationship will continue to fall apart no matter how hard you try to keep it together. if someone wants to make things work out. it will happen. if it's not happening, don't force it to cos you think you're in love & you're going to spend the rest of your life with that person. that's unreal & just naive. let it go. really though, why would you label them mr. / mrs. right if they're walking out the door? if they treat you like shit, they don't give a shit. & you shouldn't either.
individuals with this mindset are insecure with themselves. so they hold on. i don’t think having a "special someone" can complete you, or is the only thing that can make you happy. i’ve always believed that you have to be happy on your own before you can be happy with someone else.

1 comment:

  1. nothing is forever. except... diamonds. diamondss areeee foreverrrrrr :] but yeah, you're right. ladiesss, c'mon, if a guy is treatin' you like shit, then he probably doesn't think you're worth anything. I mean there are exceptions, people that went through helluh bullshit and are now happy together, but those are rare. Don't cling onto false hope. Be smart, respect and love yourself and then someone might come along and respect your body and mind, love you for yourself.

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