he's just not that into you.

current song: twista ft. mr. carpone-e - don't get it twisted.

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“If a guy treats you like he doesn’t give a shit, it’s because he doesn’t give a shit. If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will. Men don’t forget how much they like you, so put down the phone. If a guy doesn't call you, he doesn’t want to call you. Calling when you say you’re going to call is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna have a house, baby. And it’s cold outside. Don’t let the “honeys” and the “babys” fool you. His sweet nothings are exactly that. They are much easier to say than “I’m just not that into you.” Remember, actions speak louder than, “There’s no cell reception where I am right now.” A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves. If he’s not calling you to tell you he loves you and wants you back, it should only be because he’s showing up at your new residence to do it in person… if he’s not doing any of that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he’s just not that into you. Stop taking his calls and let him know what it’s like to live without you. Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You’re deeply missable. Breakup sex still means you’re broken up. Cut him off. Let him miss you. The reason it’s so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed. The part is realizing that he was lying to you, in some way, before the moment of vanishing. Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision. Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and all your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company. He doesn’t need to be reminded that you’re great. There’s a guy out there who’s going to be really happy that you didn’t get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend. Don’t give him the chance to reject you again. No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing."